Attracting Women – What Women Really Want In A Man
What is the best advice for attracting women? How do I know if I can trust this advice? When it comes to attracting the opposite sex, you can look to evolutionary science for the answer.
Let’s just put aside for the moment what women say they desire in a man. Instead, we will simply observe the kinds of choices that they actually make. The contrast between what they say they want and their actions reveal a lot.
There are women who say they want a man who listens to them and values their opinions. But then go out with guys that control the conversation. Some women say they would like a sensitive and gentle man. But they’ll date a guy who’s got a lot of money or has a large muscular physique.
Why are there differences between what they say they would like and their actual choices? To understand this, you will need to understand what attraction actually is and the role that evolution plays in why we have it.
First, it’s important to realize that attraction isn’t something that you have much control over. Men and women alike have little or no control over the chemistry of sexual attraction. It is an instinct built into us by evolution for reproductive reasons.
Men are interested in women that are healthy and fertile. This is the reason why women who are youthful with curves of a certain proportion are considered attractive by most men. Youth and a shapely body are the signs of high fertility. Some guys might say that they’re more interested in other qualities, but they’re still driven by instinctual urges toward fertile women.
When it comes to the chemistry of sexual attraction, women too are governed by some very basic instincts. Women are naturally drawn to men who can be a good provider for her children. Therefore they are drawn to fit and vigorous men who have a high status. A fit man with high status will be better able to provide for the needs of her children.
Men of high status are the leaders who are confident and take charge. They’re the alpha males or the ‘real men’ that women refer to. That’s why big muscles and wealth or power are more attractive than being nice or being a good listener.
When all of humanity where hunter/gatherers, being a good listener or being nice to our women was irrelevant to survival. What truly mattered more than all else was having the vigor and backbone to bring home the bacon. Only these qualities made it possible for a man to be a good provider.
Now you know why women are sexually indifferent to nice guys. Or men that have no backbone and lack leadership ability. These are not attractive attributes for a guy.
Not all men have big muscles but they aren’t necessary if you can project fitness and strength. This is done by the clothes you wear, your posture, the way you walk, and your level of physical fitness. You can also project strength in your behavior. A wimp is definitely not sexy.
Many people may object that these qualities are shallow. In a certain sense, that’s correct. But the mechanism of attraction is not a very deep thing. It’s very primitive and basic. It’s a powerful driving force that has propagated our species for a very long time.
Although women are attracted to the qualities discussed here, they aren’t much good for keeping a relationship strong for the long term. However, that’s a topic for another time. Remember, before a relationship is possible you will have to attract someone first.
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