First Date Advice – 4 Tips For A Great Date
For a lot of singles, first dates are times of great stress. When a person hasn’t been dating for a long time it is particularly stressful.
Not knowing what to talk about with a near stranger you know hardly anything about can fill you with apprehension. Concerns about a disastrous date can also be a source of tension.
A great stress reliever is knowledge about what is expected of you on a first date. Some tips for your first date:
1.) Going to a movie is not a good plan. Why? Because it’s impossible to get to know a person when you’re watching a movie and can’t talk.
Still another reason is that it’s dull and mundane. It is a cliche date, it’s what you do when there’s nothing better to do.
Activity based dates are fun. You could try wine tasting, skiing, an amusement park, hiking, a driving range, or going to a softball game. It helps a lot with your choice of place or activity if you know something about your date’s interests.
You might want to eat out after the activity is over. Stay away from a place that is very expensive because it will seem as though you are trying very hard to get her to like you.
2.) It never hurts to do some thinking in advance about a general plan for your conversation. Many dates have flopped because of excessive awkward silences. Start the date with small talk about something current or of interest in the immediate environment.
The conversation can be steered to getting to know her when both of you are feeling more relaxed. Learn what you share in common by asking some open ended questions and listening to her responses.
A balance between talking and listening will establish a good flow to the conversation. If you do nothing but ask questions then the date will resemble a job interview. If she can’t get a word in because you’re talking too much then you’ve failed at establishing a connection with her.
3.) Attractive and clean clothing are a must. Your date will be an uphill struggle if you make a bad first impression. Naturally, what you wear is determined by the nature of your date.
It’s a sure thing that a woman will take notice of your shoes, so leave the dirty sneakers at home.
4.) Please bear with me on this suggestion but there are some who need to be reminded: personal hygiene is important. A shower or bath, shave, deodorant, cleaned teeth, and mouthwash are the basics. Don’t allow time pressure or nervousness make you overlook this.
Don’t forget that nervousness will make a poor impression because she will take it to mean that you have no confidence. Feeling relaxed will also make your date feel relaxed and make it easier for her to relate to you. Don’t get overwhelmed by having big expectations on where the date will lead. Remember that you’ll be with an interesting person, so enjoy yourself.
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